I had lunch last week with a friend going through some relationship drama.  Having had an 11-year relationship, and closing in on three years in my current one, I know how much work it takes to keep a relationship healthy, but I'm always amazed by how ill-prepared most of us are to do it.  I mean really, where and how do we learn to make a relationship work? These three books a great place to start.

The Dance of Connection
All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples